I felt that my surgeon was very focussed on just wanting to do a lumpectomy as my two tumours were quite small and I am still annoyed that I let him talk me into that. I had very dense breasts also and I just wanted both of them off. After a lumpectomy I then had to go back and get the full mastectomy and lymph node clearance because there was more disease that the MRI couldn’t pick up. I wanted the other one off too but my surgeon wasn’t interested in that so I am having genetic testing in 3 weeks time and will decide then.
Losing a breast - or two - is not a small thing. Of course we would all prefer to keep them both in a perfect world, but when they conspire to kill you they become the enemy. I am treasuring my remaining breast right now because it’s time is limited. I intend to get it off as soon as I can because I am too afraid to keep it.
It is a difficult decision when you have a choice. And only you can make it - just try to stand firm in your decision and do what is best for you. You are the one that has to live with it.