I completely understand where you’re coming from @Cath62. When I was diagnosed with stage 4 denovo HER2+ bc, my mother told me my problem was that I didn’t have enough to do. I was 40 years old, with a 2 year old and a 4 year old and working full time. Thanks Mum. Super helpful. Then she didn’t speak to me for 3 days. Then when I saw her her and said I had liver Mets, she actually opened a bottle of champagne said that’s good, better than in your bones and expected me to celebrate with her. I have never spoken to her about it again.