I had a mastectomy at 35 and reconstruction wasnt an option as I was pregnant. I have never had any interest in reconstruction to this day. I am a 14c and I am very comfortable going to the shops without my prosthetic if I dont want to wear it. Im not bothered if people stare but most of the time I havent noticed if they do or not. I do wear a prosthetic if I am going out and I am so used to it now as its just a part of my normal dress routine. It will take some time to find one you are comfortable with though and clothes shopping can be a bit of a pain but I wear bras with lace panelling so I can have more options.