@Lynnie1974
It's such a major factor for us; our hair is a huge part of how we see ourselves and how others see us. One person told me it took two years after the end of chemo for hers to settle to its permanent state. But there you go, @Afraser with her three years! I'm 15 months on from end of chemo and it's been a constant game of chasing solutions for where my hair decides it's going each month. I had a horror of it growing back with those tiny frizzy curls. It didn't, fortunately.
My hair went naturally silver from stress over a four-month period when I was 46. I liked it and so did other people. Cheeky anecdote here: When I was 60, living in Scotland, I dated a 47-year old guy who said, "I love your hair, and not just because it's pretty, but because it says a lot about you - a woman of your age, willing to just let it be silver and not dye it to try to look younger." I kept him. For quite a while, anyway!
I've always had a "second crown", which has at times been problematic, especially if a hairdresser cut it too short.
Post-chemo, it is now silver again (a bit lighter than before, I think), but sometimes sticks out in odd ways. My new hairdresser advises - to encourage healthy growth and condition - to wash our hair less frequently, and in between shampoos (he advises once a week or up to 10 days), to use dry shampoo or just wash hair in water and use conditioner but not shampoo. It's been worse since chemo. Then I discovered MooGoo dry shampoo and it's amazing. A dusting with that, a fluff-up, and it looks styled.
I guess I have to wait a bit to see where it will end up. All the best with coming to terms with yours.
