@KatieT I have to say I agree with you, Im so glad you are seeing a Psychologist! Its very beneficial on so many levels. I didnt do the LGFB course at all, but Ive heard its good, Ive always been into makeup and well groomed so didnt feel a need for it. One of the biggest psychological things of this journey I can totally relate to is appearance. I was always feminine, well groomed, had long blonde hair, though in my 40's and not young LOL. How l look now is a far cry from what I was as little as 2 years ago. My whole body shape has changed thanks to treatment, my hair whilst Im grateful, has a way to go to a length I feel happy, the toll of treatment is seen in my face as I feel Ive aged 10 years!! and I'll be honest as we do count our blessings and yes its great to be alive... BUT it doesnt diminish the sadness at the loss of all that we are along the way. Its hard to not be upset at who youve become because of treatment...I think thats normal. Its not the BC that has made you now look the way you do unfortunately, its the treatments. Ive spent alot of time learning to love me again, this new me but it isnt easy when you know how you looked previously and yes we should embrace the new us, but its not that easy or simple...and nobody else walks in our shoes, nobody...we are left to look in the mirror, nobody else. So I indulge and I pop on my makeup and do my hair and try and capture that femininity of who I am and it does pep me up, although I look different, its those little things that bring me peace and gives me that feminine feeling. Hugs Melinda xo