Ladies my kids were 15, 17 and 25 at home they have come through this resilient and I know it was through the sharing of information as they needed it and also the cuddles and times for them ... THEY have a better understanding of what really matters in life... it caused my 15 to knuckle down into her studies she is now in 3rd yr uni to be psychologist etc. boys had some ups and downs with it but partially due to autism
Love your kids and do what you are doing they will come out changed from this but with help and supports from you and others they will continue to blossom into beautiful young adults.
Hugs girls