I finished chemo in August 2018 and mine grew back as white fluff in a few weeks - that combined with the lack of eyebrows made me look like a Wedge-Tailed Eagle chick (google the image - not great). So I clipped it with a number 2 (or maybe 1 - can't remember). Anyway, it did grow back and I hated the steel grey colour so I did dye it. I let it grow to past shoulder length with the odd trim which took a couple of years. The Letrozole has caused thinning and made my hair even finer than it was before so I always felt that it looked ratty. Last year (like many other women, it seems), I gave up on colouring it - can't be bothered spending the money or the time. In November, I got it all cut off into a short asymmetric style. My husband wasn't impressed but I love it, I've had so many people say that it looks great, and my 18 yo son's first comment was "Cool haircut, Mum" . The natural grey colour has softened somewhat and a colleague asked me where I had the colour done because it was such a good job - grey is the new black. The short style has given me some volume back and hides the worst of the thinning.
It was important to me after chemo to let my hair grow. Last year when I stopped colouring and even more so when I got it cut, it was just as important (perhaps, more important) to take control and get it cut into something with style and power. I've already got possibilities for the next style lined up for when I get bored with this one.
Anyway, @Michelle_R, I guess my point is that your hair will grow, it will feel different at first and may be a struggle to deal with until you get used to it. I was fortunate enough to have a hairdresser who I have been seeing for donkey's years and felt confident enough to go to her fairly early on after chemo and ask her to tidy it up a bit. You may want to do the same thing if you're not happy with your look.
