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ChrissK
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10 years ago

Hair gone....

I didn't think it will affect me loosing my hair but what a lie that was..... My long think curls were shaved  last night and it has depressed me cause I guess that is really the only way you look in the mirror and confirms yes I have BC.  Everyone says wow you look great blah blah blah but cancer really doesn't show on the outside, but having the head shaved confirms it and makes you confront it everyday when you look in the mirror. 

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  • Thank you Sue, yes I too have a nice wig and it pretty much looks like my hair.... Yes the best part is the fact that I don't have to shave the normal areas, good luck with your round of chemo.  I have my 4th chemo on 10/2 and hoping it will be my last and not need the 12 Taxols.

  • Thank you for your very kind words Tracey, yes we have to believe in ourselves and not let this stupid BC take the better of us!!!!

  • Thanks Brenda5.... I actually still have the eyebrows and lashes too!

  • Thanks Karen, yes i have registered for the look good feel better and going in Feb....

  • Hi Chris!

    it was the one thing that I dreaded the whole time, even before I started the chemo.  I have cried my heart out many times and can't look I. The mirror either.  I have clung to a small fringe and sides so that it looks like I have ft har with a scarf on, just couldn't and still can't go all the way with the shave.  Looks weird so my hubby says whilst rubbing my prickly shaved head, there are hundreds of prickly hairs that even after 3 rounds if chemo still haven't fallen out, and continues on to say but if that what makes you happier and makes it easier to deal with then I'm happy for you.  I also have a wig that I wear when out which is so close to my normal hair in style and colour that it is rediculous.  It can get a bit hot but I need normality as much as possible to help me get through this.  Sending you and me positive thoughts that both our hairs will grow back as quick as possible.  BTW. I too still have eyebrows and lashes, no more shaving or waxing in normal areas is a real blessing in disguise and can stay like that forever if it likes.  I have one round of chemo to go.

    Take care,

    sue

  • Dear Chris, 

    bc can take so much from us, our health, our confidence, our self image. But it can never take from you the beautiful YOU that shines from the inside out. The love that you show your family, the kindness to friends & strangers, the inner essence of who you are as a woman - that's what makes YOU beautiful. Don't be fooled by this new outside image, it won't last. Your hair will grow back and you will be stronger and more beautiful than you ever were. Because then you will know how truly precious you are to those who love the real you, bless you, Tracey??

  • I haven't shaved mine but I had gotten it cut short and I am clinging to the few whisps left so its not a shiny bald head yet touch wood. It is cooler so that's a plus but if I scratch my head I really have to remember, hey just rub not scratch as there is not hair much protecting my scalp. Agree it looks crappy in the mirror. I am mostly just avoiding mirrors lol. I did pluck and reshape my long neglected eyebrows so it doesn't look so bushy and out of place. Believe me those eyebrow ones are still cemented in there and took some pulling to shape.

  • Hi Chris

    it is a shock when you first look in the mirror and your hair is gone. I initially bought a wig, very close to my normal hair colour and style as I didn't want to look like a cancer patient but I ended up just going bald. I think it was part of the acceptance of what was happening to me. Some other people were very uncomfortable with it but the majority of the time I was ok with bald. It is a huge acknowledgement that you do I fact have cancer and it's not surprising that it is knocking you somewhat. I don't think I ever got used to seeing my bald head in the mirror. Unfortunately, I have no words of wisdom to give you comfort other than the usual, take one day at a time. Go to look good, feel better and get some ideas. It is surreal. Hang in there love. Karen xox