Dry , hot and quite honestly " GO AWAY " !

Hi Beppie - I live in Victoria and we have an information and support service called BreaCan.  They run various information sessions for breast and gynaecological cancers.  One of the sessions offered was with a counsellor psychologist with a specialty in sexuality.  It was held at an adult 'toy shop'.  The psychologist went through all of the various devices, creams, books etc in the shop - including different lubricants and which is better in different circumstances.  With a sense of humour she talked us through options and ideas for alternative ways of arousal and having sex.  I found this a very helpful session.  It also made me comfortable in the adult toy shop so I now feel I can go back and browse or ask for other ideas in the future.  I did find things which have assisted me and my partner.

If you feel brave enough you might like to step into a few adult toy stores until you find one with an approachable sales person you feel comfortable talking to.  They could offer some ideas for lubricant among other things.

I wish you lots of luck with a little joy mixed in :)