Hi @odette, I want to send you good wishes and hope it turns out well for you, a lot of good advice here.
and @joanne213 don't give up, I know it's scary but it may NOT have spread, it's hard waiting I know but are you having a lumpectomy soon? They will probably take some Lymph nodes and that way you will know more. I had 3 large tumors removed as well as lymph nodes and luckily the nodes were clear. Even if it is in a lymph node it's NOT a death sentence, many women on here have this diagnosis and get through ok.
So try to not worry too much, and the advice from @ cath62 is very helpful.
xx
