Gosh, @TabooGal
I hope you are feeling less stressed by what your Onc said .... they have to tell you (within reason) the likely outcomes - but that all sounds a bit harsh to me! :(
I just try to think that 'It Is What It Is' and we are doing the best to turn it around, by all our surgery, radiation, chemo & tablets - and whatever else we do!
Where abouts do you live? Do you have far to travel to hospital/treatments?
Our local Breast Care Group arranges driving BC folk to either Taree or Port Macquarie for their chemo - tho for my radiation I took advantage of staying at the Rotary Lodge in Port Macquarie (which is heavily subsidised = low cost, but high living standards!) and basically stayed there for the 4 weeks.
When my husband was having his cancer surgery in RNSH in Sydney - we also got a massively reduced daily carpark rate too. Definitely ask for a social worker to see what you can be helped with. I had one of my major bills 'paid for' during my treatment as well (i.e., council, power, water rates etc) - a saving of $400! The Social Worker arranged it for me.
Thinking of you big time .... take care & all the best xxx