hi there Desi, so glad that you feel some gladness with the site. It's crummy for you having the news about secondaries only three months ago. Such a new time for you, the same as with max1ebob at four months ago....I'm in Victoria, hoping you can find someone, or some people, to get together with close to home. I've found meeting people helps (a cuppa is happeing next week, something too look forward to!) and I've also done a secondaries phone group (you all get dialed in to speak) and that's good too (anything relaxed and low pressure)....Wow max1ebob this is amazing all the responses.....Jenny xx