Prosthetics slipping in bras

Hi there @JennyHowie, welcome to the group. I had a bilateral mastectomy in 2017 and do have the Amoena prosthesis. I did wear them both when going out, but now I no longer bother. I have very narrow shoulders which slope as well, and therefor, I've always had problems with the straps falling down, so have always kept them fairly tight. I was a size 18DD before. From around 2013, so before being run over by the Cancer Clowns, I've been on prednisolone for autoimmune conditions (4), which has given me a Buddha belly. I mention all this for a reason. I found that between the tightish straps and the abdominal fat pushing from below, by 'boobs' constantly crept up until they ended up on my collar bones. So I'd loosen the straps, which made no difference to the upwardly mobile boobs, but just meant that I was now pulling down my boobs and pulling up my straps. In the end, I just decided to remain flat and fabulous. I do wear them if I go out for a special occasion, such as a wedding, but otherwise I don't bother. I wear tops that are fairly loose and have a bit of decoration on the front, and quite frankly, I don't think most people even notice. This is a photo of me two Christmases ago...pardon the bum...

Dear @"Christina 55",
Sincere sympathy and best wishes

from jennyss in Western NSW

Hi all. Needing to have a mastectomy  (Right Breast) and have always thought that if I reached this point I would opt for a double mastectomy. Having doubts a couple of weeks before the surgery.  I would invite comments from anyone who has had a double mastectomy and is using prostetics. Also tips on clothing.  Trying to work through the decision making,
Regards, Jen

Hi Christina,
So sorry to hear about the loss of your husband as well as the rough time you've had.
I also had a double mastectomy (Nov 2015) and decided not to have reconstruction. I too was a 14 D and was happy to go smaller. I went to a place in Melbourne which sells the Amoena brand. ( http://breastcarevictoria.com.au/ ) and was fitted with a few different bras and prosthetics - normal weight  and a lighter pair.  Over the 18 months since my op I now feel most comfortable wearing a camisole style top with light weight forms. However, only good for winter!
The bras I bought sometimes feel too tight, but I experimented with a bra extension and can now adjust as needed.
Pauline xx

@LMK74 Oh so similar to me, I couldnt have an expander or implant either due to radiation back in 2011. I so hear you, after my recurrence and going through chemo I actually developed alot of anxiety around tests and hospitals. That was never me, I always had that in check. It is so so hard to know what is best for you, I admit I was glad I couldnt do the implant as that was never something I wanted ever. When they told me I was a good candidate for the Diep, they stepped right through the surgery and I admit I was petrified thinking how the hell could I possibly survive that, an 8hr op all at once! But you know what, the first couple of weeks are hard absolutely, but what amazed me was how quickly you heal. I have no regrets at all, I couldn't be happier, for me I think I liked that it was still me and my tissue, I even found psychologically this reconstruction was perfect for me, because I didn't feel dramatically different, not the way I thought I would. I also liked the fact after my revision this was it, no more surgery my icing on the cake LOL...onward I go. 

I took a long time to decide and I was lucky to be able to do that, so I'm glad youre seeing a Psychologist, I think you can request some additional? What I found for me was, my Psychologist talked about attachment to my physicality...which is so normal right?? what resonated for me was no matter what changes about my physical appearance I'm still the same person...and I know people say that all the time, but it really hit home and made sense to me. Now Im on the other side, I realised I dont need to be attached to any part of my physicality at all...I am still the same in fact probably a new improved version..because I'm happier in so many respects :D So take your time and find what sits right for you. Hugs xo Melinda

Thanks brightspace. Guess it will be trial and error or maybe go for double mastectomy and be totally flat lol.

Melclarity, I met with my radiation oncologist last week and she said I'm not a candidate for expander thanks to  the radiation I have to do. Only option is to do the same as you or just have prosthetic. That upset me also as it's big surgery and I'm such a wimp when it comes to any sort of medical procedures. I know I have plenty of time to think about it. I see a psychologist already and my sessions are nearly up for the year.

Hi LMk74
It does take time to adjust to mono status..just not the cleavage we were used to.swimming is a must for me so have tried various prothetics some are gei with inner raised sections lightweight for summer, others have small balls for more air water movement.Ifind the gel sport more comfortable to wear. For hot daysall days i use  a cotton bra which i modified by adding a cotton lining. That said going without is a must for hot humid weather. All best B

Lisa, I had a hell of a time leading into my Mastectomy/Diep Flap recon in february, I was so distressed I thought I was losing it after everything I'd been through, but I chose to contact a Psychologist that I'd seen 3yrs prior, it only took 1 session, but it helped enormously in terms of settling me and another perspective. Once I had surgery, I didn't look back, no tears at all, so I think I grieved it leading into surgery. I don't know of the prosthesis so can't comment. 

Christina, I too am saddened to hear of the loss of your Husband, condolences to you and your family. Hugs Melinda xo