Hi Lynne,
I wont go into great detail here as the other ladies have given you some very good advice, its early days and yes you have a lot to get your head around, if you go to the living with metastatic breast cancer site here on bcna thats where you find me and a lot of other ladies who are unfortunately in the position of having metasteses{that does not look right!} myself I am 4 years post diagnosis and my initial diagnosis was simply advanced breast cancer, I had mets in my liver spine and of course 3 tumours in my left breast, I am currently on my 6thline of treatment, and living life as best I can, I havent made any funeral plans yet!!! best to make a list of what you need to look at and work through, there are support services out there you just have to find them,and yes I agree that feeling out of control is the worst type of emotion and all you want to do is be in control,that can, and will happen, one step at a time, easy to say and yet so hard to do,please ask away any questions you have and I am sure that we will try our hardest to answer them,be kind to yourself,big hugs,
wendy55