BAD NEWS PLEASE HELP ABSOLUTELY DISTRAUGHT

The herceptin and the other drug will only slow down the spread. The  taxol though will shrink the  tumors. You could try it and if it doesn't work in a few weeks or makes life unbearable then stop it, at least  then your decision is on your experience, not  fear. I respect your decision to choose your path, but feel for those you will leave behind for not trying. Let us know how you go. You are stronger than you think. It's normal to feel frightened and anxious before hand. Once you start it is so less awful than you imagined.  We will be thinking of you with heavy hearts. Kath x