A comment that cut right through my soul.........

Your husband will be feeling angry and scared and the lashing out is just a that coming out. It's not fair and totally unacceptable but it is what slips out sometimes. He is probably hoping you didn't take any notice of the comment and by pretending it didn't happen, he can move on. The emotions that go along with this is so very confronting for all. If you can talk to him about it in a moment of calm, do so otherwise perhaps see a counsellor to help you deal with their emotions.