Hi @Cora
I have had 3 big surgeries in my life - hysterectomy , mastectomy and DIEP flap reconstruction.
The hysterectomy was 15 years ago and both my surgeon and anaesthetist were not particularly empathetic although they were technically proficient.
The surgeons and anaesthetists for my breast surgeries were much more empathetic and I did get a visit in hospital from the aneasthatists after each of m breast surgeries.
I think it might be that more emphasis is on being empathetic in todays medical training, it could have been the luck of the draw , or it could be that surgeons doing breast cancer surgery realise what an emotional wreck it tends to make us.
Anyway , I hope you are healing well , the emotional scars take time to heal as well as the physical ones.
take care🌺