I am so sorry you are in distress, @nat_k20, particularly about finances :( ...... Do you have a Breast Care Nurse? You may be able to chat with them about it? Shame your partner isn't too receptive - often people think 'you've had the surgery - everything is fine' .... but they have no idea of the ongoing emotional toll that this shitty disease takes out on you xx You are not alone in this - we've pretty well all experienced some sort of distress/depression since the diagnosis ....
Please, give our helpline a call on 1800 500 258, even NOW - or definitely tomorrow xx ... They may be able to give you some advice & comfort .... It can be a financial nightmare with not all our treatments & surgical costs being covered by Medicare and/or private Health Care. I know I was out of pocket about $7,000 all up .... mainly because i chose to have my surgery done as private ...
Depending on what surgery you've had, your surgeon will give you an idea on when you can go back to work, depending on the type of work you do .... as anything involving lifting/moving weights probably wouldn't be recommended just yet.
The Cancer Council may also be able to offer some advice on financial issues ....
Check out from Page 74 on this booklet they put out .... you can ring their Financial advice line ....
take care, try & take one day at a time, one hour, if must be xx. Try not to get ahead of yourself & worry about the 'what ifs' ..... cos they may just never happen xx