Still feeling discombobulated!
Hi everyone, I finished treatment, nov 2018, and tried to get my life back 2019, I feel like I take 2 steps forward then 2 back, and my the end of 2019 was feeling totally deflated again, fatigued,...
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Hi @Spillsy,
Limbo land after treatment kind of takes you by surprise doesn't it? I really don't think any of us quite expected it.
The first year after treatment is just some kind of cloudy fog to get through. You aren't the same, but that doesn't mean it will stay that way forever. Time continues to tick along and nothing stays the same. Personally, I found the second year after treatment things started to move forward. Year three, even better. You may just end up liking the new you even more than the old one.
If I could say one thing that I wished I had realised a bit earlier it would be to actively seek out the good moments. Even if they are brief, if you keep looking and take notice of them they start to add up. A fleeting feeling of normality, a beautiful sunset, a family moment full of laughter, whatever it may be, just hold it for a bit longer than normal. That all sounds a bit airy fairy for me, but I found it certainly worked and gave me a feeling of being a little more balanced and appreciative of the little things that I once would have not noticed or just taken for granted. These days, I hate wasting precious time feeling ho hum.
The small talk and listening to trivial problems takes a while to become somewhat normal again and not grind your gears, but it does. Once cancer is a little futher to the back of your mind. That never goes either but you can lock it away faster.
Wear the cancer woman badge with pride beautiful lady. It is part of you now and you can't get rid of it. You've beaten it. Look how strong you were to get through all that shit.
All the best lovely.
xoxoxoxox
Limbo land after treatment kind of takes you by surprise doesn't it? I really don't think any of us quite expected it.
The first year after treatment is just some kind of cloudy fog to get through. You aren't the same, but that doesn't mean it will stay that way forever. Time continues to tick along and nothing stays the same. Personally, I found the second year after treatment things started to move forward. Year three, even better. You may just end up liking the new you even more than the old one.
If I could say one thing that I wished I had realised a bit earlier it would be to actively seek out the good moments. Even if they are brief, if you keep looking and take notice of them they start to add up. A fleeting feeling of normality, a beautiful sunset, a family moment full of laughter, whatever it may be, just hold it for a bit longer than normal. That all sounds a bit airy fairy for me, but I found it certainly worked and gave me a feeling of being a little more balanced and appreciative of the little things that I once would have not noticed or just taken for granted. These days, I hate wasting precious time feeling ho hum.
The small talk and listening to trivial problems takes a while to become somewhat normal again and not grind your gears, but it does. Once cancer is a little futher to the back of your mind. That never goes either but you can lock it away faster.
Wear the cancer woman badge with pride beautiful lady. It is part of you now and you can't get rid of it. You've beaten it. Look how strong you were to get through all that shit.
All the best lovely.
xoxoxoxox