Everyone is different - our cancers are different, our treatment is different, our lives - pre and post - are different. The only thing I would offer was that what I had to work on most after diagnosis, and it’s still a work in progress, was about attitudes to myself and my life that had nothing to do with bc and predated it. ‘I’m not ageing; I multitask; Give it to me to me, I’ll do/fix it;’ and my best one ‘ I intend to keep in good health and not die’ (thank you Charlotte Bronte). These attitudes are really not sustainable and I had kept them up to 67. I think I am a slightly better person now, not because I had cancer (that’s rubbish!) but because cancer forced me to re-assess some habits that were not helpful to my well being. I was lucky, in many ways, and what I had to sort out wasn’t family trauma, or terrible experiences, just largely my own vanity and a bit of irrational fear. But it’s unexpected, we tend to want the old me back (imperfect as it may be) and it takes time. Best wishes.