Thanks @jennyss, my counsellor is very supportive of feeling the feelings, not hiding from them or boxing them up and putting them somewhere in a compartment and not dealing with them. That attitude/strategy has been good for me as it made me realise that feeling down or awful some days is ok, feel it physically and then it is easier to move on. I think too I get impatient and want to feel better right away and sometimes that isn't possible. The Headspace app has helped me with that too, let go of resistance instead of saying 'be patient' which has never been helpful for me as it makes me feel that something is wrong with my feelings. Letting go seems more positive than 'BE' something.