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Motivation tips please
So here I am. Tired of having treatment. Eighteen months worth in 2018/19 and then mets diagnosis in 2022. Eight months in to a lifetime of treatment and I have already lost my motivation for going. I...
Dear @Blossom1961
It’s really not surprising. This isn’t the way you hoped things would pan out. Treatment for life - it’s two things isn’t it? Treatment you will have always but also treatment to ensure you have a life to live. Intellectually that’s all understandable, emotionally not so easy.
I don’t have mets, I just have three side effects that I will almost certainly have for life. Dealing with them is eminently doable. But at the beginning, I felt quite confused about who I was. Not depressed, just a bit adrift. Time with a good counsellor (you need one who really understands where you are coming from!) helped a lot. I had expected and hoped to recover from cancer, lose a boob and get back to ‘normal’. I didn’t expect my normal to change and I didn’t anticipate factoring in management of three side effects. I was grateful for recovering and utterly unsure of what my unanticipated ‘bits’ meant. It took a few good conversations with an intelligent and wise outsider to work out what was affecting what, and what I could do about it.
My problem doesn’t compare to yours but my solution may still be worth a shot. Sometimes pulling yourself up by the bootstraps is much easier with someone lending you some muscle! Best wishes.
It’s really not surprising. This isn’t the way you hoped things would pan out. Treatment for life - it’s two things isn’t it? Treatment you will have always but also treatment to ensure you have a life to live. Intellectually that’s all understandable, emotionally not so easy.
I don’t have mets, I just have three side effects that I will almost certainly have for life. Dealing with them is eminently doable. But at the beginning, I felt quite confused about who I was. Not depressed, just a bit adrift. Time with a good counsellor (you need one who really understands where you are coming from!) helped a lot. I had expected and hoped to recover from cancer, lose a boob and get back to ‘normal’. I didn’t expect my normal to change and I didn’t anticipate factoring in management of three side effects. I was grateful for recovering and utterly unsure of what my unanticipated ‘bits’ meant. It took a few good conversations with an intelligent and wise outsider to work out what was affecting what, and what I could do about it.
My problem doesn’t compare to yours but my solution may still be worth a shot. Sometimes pulling yourself up by the bootstraps is much easier with someone lending you some muscle! Best wishes.