@kmakm
Kate, i get why you don't want to ask for help from your friends. You get to the point where all you want to do is to have the ability to do it yourself, and that's part of wanting and getting control back in your life. I know i felt that way. Having said this though i don't know what i would have done without the help that i had and still have. Getting back control in my life was the best feeling ever, even if things fall apart every now and again but that's life.
As for the teenage floordrobe, i cured my girls of that very quickly with the suggestion that if they left their clothes on the floor for too long spiders would move in! Neither of them were fond of spiders!