How to prioritise self care?

Oh @kmakm, my heart hurts reading your post. It's so hard to juggle all the balls. My psych always insisted I couldn't give anything to others if my reservese were compromised. If the well is empty there's nothing to fill up others so don't sacrifice self-care (another water analogy) . You might not do all that you want, but you can't let it go entirely. Another important tip from my psychologist was 'natural consequences'. My son has ASD and I was on my own with him during 2 BC diagnoses. He had his own struggles but I couldn't fix things for him. She said natural consequences are the best teacher. Eg. If you don't wash your clothes, you have no clothes to wear. For your son, no work = no money = no fun. Therefore if he wants to do things at uni he will need to get money. Therefore a job. Most of his peers will have one. For the kids at dinner, it never hurt anyone to make their own Vegemite sandwich for dinner, or a bowl of cereal. If they don't like that, the alternative is to help. Could they do the prep for dinner - chop veges, etc? It's a life lesson - a natural consequence. Tough love even. When things get hard, everyone has to chip in. It is ok for you to prioritise time and activities for yourself. It is more than ok, it is essential. It is self-preservation. If you fall in a heap, the family will be in a worse position. It's the hardest thing for us to do I think - make ourselves the priority. Thinking of you. Xx 💜