How to answer! Am I in remission?
I was asked today if I was remission, and being Stage 3 when diagnosed five years ago, and now had all the necessary treatment I wondered how to answer that. My yearly mammogram and Ultrasound was in ...
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One of my least fav invasions. Just behind the perennial 'What's your prognosis?'
I don't think those who ask realise what a deeply personal and confronting question that is. Yes, most folk are just trying to engage with you or show they know the terminology. Some are purely curious (which I find ghoulish)
'None of your business' for strangers if I'm having a bad day or if I decide they are looking for gossip. I simply change the subject if I'm feeling more benevolent.
'That's a private matter' can shut down anyone who is not part of your inner circle. Those folk already know.
I'm tired of being nice because it makes other people feel better. If they want to make someone who has had a cancer diagnosis feel better, they won't ask questions like that.
I understand it is not our 'job' to educate the gormless. But after all these years of personal uncertainty, I'm done.
I don't think those who ask realise what a deeply personal and confronting question that is. Yes, most folk are just trying to engage with you or show they know the terminology. Some are purely curious (which I find ghoulish)
'None of your business' for strangers if I'm having a bad day or if I decide they are looking for gossip. I simply change the subject if I'm feeling more benevolent.
'That's a private matter' can shut down anyone who is not part of your inner circle. Those folk already know.
I'm tired of being nice because it makes other people feel better. If they want to make someone who has had a cancer diagnosis feel better, they won't ask questions like that.
I understand it is not our 'job' to educate the gormless. But after all these years of personal uncertainty, I'm done.