Feel the need to withdraw from family
Hi All. I'm 4 months post active radiation treatment and on hormone therapy and Venlafaxine. When I was diagnosed my husband was in hospital with an undiagnosed illness. In fact, my husband is ...
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Hi @carolr
Sounds really tough what you have been through. I had a bit of a hard time during treatment with some family.
I had a sister who never even called me when she new of my diagnosis. My husband pushed her to contact me and she did but it was strained and after 1 call I only ever had a text message a couple of times from her. She lives 15 mins from me and not once did she pop in to see how I was.
Best thing I did was move on from those that don't support me. I lost a couple of friends during cancer treatment too. I certainly found out who was there for me and who wasn't.
I don't have much of a relationship with my sister now. I send birthday and Christmas wishes but other than that there is not much there. Shame because I value family. I just focus on the family and friends who I do have a positive relationship with and I stopped making an effort on the rest.
I agree you need a bit of time away for you. Cancer does make you reassess lots of things including what we do for family.
I did so much for my family and I have stopped much now because I need to look after myself first before I help anyone else. You can't keep giving from an empty cup but if you fill your cup with some self care first you may have something to give others. I had to make the change and you know what, when I did the wheels didn't fall off and everyone adjusted.
Best wishes to you 💐
Sounds really tough what you have been through. I had a bit of a hard time during treatment with some family.
I had a sister who never even called me when she new of my diagnosis. My husband pushed her to contact me and she did but it was strained and after 1 call I only ever had a text message a couple of times from her. She lives 15 mins from me and not once did she pop in to see how I was.
Best thing I did was move on from those that don't support me. I lost a couple of friends during cancer treatment too. I certainly found out who was there for me and who wasn't.
I don't have much of a relationship with my sister now. I send birthday and Christmas wishes but other than that there is not much there. Shame because I value family. I just focus on the family and friends who I do have a positive relationship with and I stopped making an effort on the rest.
I agree you need a bit of time away for you. Cancer does make you reassess lots of things including what we do for family.
I did so much for my family and I have stopped much now because I need to look after myself first before I help anyone else. You can't keep giving from an empty cup but if you fill your cup with some self care first you may have something to give others. I had to make the change and you know what, when I did the wheels didn't fall off and everyone adjusted.
Best wishes to you 💐