Feel the need to withdraw from family
Hi All. I'm 4 months post active radiation treatment and on hormone therapy and Venlafaxine. When I was diagnosed my husband was in hospital with an undiagnosed illness. In fact, my husband is ...
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Dear @carolr
You’ve had a lousy time. Even very independent, ‘oh, just let me do it’ people (I count myself as one) have a need for a shoulder at some point or other during cancer treatment. I didn’t need a support team, I worked throughout treatment but I did want someone to recognise, just occasionally, that it wasn’t all skittles. My stoic, ‘let’s not make a fuss’ but caring partner surprised me a couple of times by suddenly doing something totally unexpected, appropriate and delightful. It doesn’t take much. Unfortunately, it’s easy to assume independent people don’t need anything. Or to rush into ‘it’s all over’ mode. Especially if you don’t know what to do, or haven’t asked or think
it’s all too late to bother now.
If you can, clear out for a while! The Otis Foundation and others offer free accommodation for breaks. Take some time for yourself and let others just manage best they can for a while. I don’t believe that cancer changes who you are but it can provide a really good kickstart to living better. If not now, when? Very best wishes.
You’ve had a lousy time. Even very independent, ‘oh, just let me do it’ people (I count myself as one) have a need for a shoulder at some point or other during cancer treatment. I didn’t need a support team, I worked throughout treatment but I did want someone to recognise, just occasionally, that it wasn’t all skittles. My stoic, ‘let’s not make a fuss’ but caring partner surprised me a couple of times by suddenly doing something totally unexpected, appropriate and delightful. It doesn’t take much. Unfortunately, it’s easy to assume independent people don’t need anything. Or to rush into ‘it’s all over’ mode. Especially if you don’t know what to do, or haven’t asked or think
it’s all too late to bother now.
If you can, clear out for a while! The Otis Foundation and others offer free accommodation for breaks. Take some time for yourself and let others just manage best they can for a while. I don’t believe that cancer changes who you are but it can provide a really good kickstart to living better. If not now, when? Very best wishes.