Hi there
this is off on a tangent but…
To those above who have turned/ will be turning 40 and 50 , I escaped out of the country for those milestone birthdays as well as my 60th ( am now 63).
Enjoy those “younger “ years as much as you can ! ( although you know they say “ 60 is the new 50”, “70 is the new 60” etc.)
I used to think when people said to me “ you look well” after my diagnosis they meant “ oh you are not dead yet”
, but now I just say “ thanks, I feel well” and if I am feeling very naughty I say “ I have a great plastic surgeon”
( who did my breast reconstruction!)