It's possible that I am overly cynical, but I think we may have been sold a crock of shit when it comes to what we can\should expect from others.
The older I get the more I realise that the advertising world's version of what is normal, is anything but. It's all an illusion. That shiny happy world only exists in someone else's imagination.
Previous conversations with 'That Poor Woman's (my absent shrink) about expectations were helpful. Just don't have any. It's easier. If folk step up and help, that's nice.if they don't, nothing changes for you. As noted by others, it's not the people you think you can rely on who actually assist.
Oddly, realising how fallible pretty much the whole population is can let some stress of my brain. People are people, we can't expect anything from them. I'd rather trust my dog who is one of the most clueless creatures on the planet.
Anyway. On we plod.