There are lots of people who take Tamoxifen and AIs who have little to no trouble on them so take heart!
Interestingly, I was the same as you, at 51 and now have a raft of health problems. I struggle enormously with the 'new normal' and 'new me' and find it horrifying and surreal like you. I am on Letrozole and my oncologist says when I'm ready to give up on this she reckons Tamoxifen will be easier. Others have a better time on the AI. We're all different.
Have you been given a percentage for the benefit of taking hormone suppressing medication? For some it's 1% and they're prepared to take the chance and not take it.
Really there's only one way to find out and that's to try. Let us know how you get on. K xox
