Thanks tonya that's really comforting. I have read many stories of kids after breast cancer but my oncologist thinks it doesn't end well. In his experience anyway. My cancer was estrogen driven therefore anything hormonal is out. I guess the urgency is he doesn't want me pregnant which will sky rocket my hormones which in turn feed the cancer cells which could then leave my daughter without a mother. So unfortunately time is crucial though he failed to tell me this earlier only springing it on me now! I guess the thing I struggle with the most right now is killing my own chances of more children. But on the flip side - I'm lucky to b alive and have one child - more than some others have. Thanks for commenting #dilemma