HI @KateA,
That truly sucks. I am sorry you have to go through this thing a second time.
"Must" is a very strong word. Their job is to give you their medical opinion on the best recommended treatment for your circumstances. Not coerce you into commiting to compliancy...goodness me , some of these people have no idea do they? That sounds quite threatening actually. Not like they can come and watch you take the tablet and force you off to chemo if you don't.
You definitely need the oncology appointment. Who's been advising so far? Remember, the other specialties need to stay in their own lane. Surgeons should not advise on whether you need chemo and vice versa. It tends to happen a lot though.
The only thing you "must do" is gather all your information from the each specialist and decide what you feel is right for you lovely.
All the best sweet xoxoxo
