Yep I am there

There seems to be a huge lack of information in how to help children through this tough time. If it isn't bad enough that you have breast cancer and you're just trying to get yourself through the treatment process in one piece.. you have to work out , what, how, when and how much to tell the kids and how to manage their reactions....

My daughter (5 years old) became quite angry when I had to shave my head, and didn't want the kids at school to know I had no hair. Fortunately her class had lots of boys that thought me shaving my head was "cool" so she was a bit happier after that...

My Son who is 8 is haivng a rough time more so now that I have finished treatment and has fallen further behind at school and said to me just yesterday "cancer means you can die doesn't it Mummy?" This broke my heart...he has developed a nervous tick and has anxiety when myself or my husband go out for any length of time.

I have found a couple of publications on how to deal with some of the issues but really there isn't much information around.

Goodness knows how you would feel when you're just little (my 3 were under 7 when I was diagnosed), Mum is the center of your world,  then suddenly Mum is sick....really sick...you might lose her....It must be so hard for the kids to get their head around. and the impact on them must be enormous. I have sort the advice of counsillors in my children's sake and have gotten some good advice from them.

I think with more and more women getting diagnosed younger and younger there needs to be more information and support for Mums with kids to consider.

Talk soon :O)