Annie2,
I'm not trying to help you! You have access to a staggering array of support options. I'm trying to help carers. So I apologise if you have taken offence but not for what I said.
What I am after is practical ideas that help us to help our partners especially when we are dealing with the effects of chemo or this cruel disease eg have your medications on a spreadsheet so that you can print it off and stick it in your grab bag before you race them to A&E, how to keep a log of temps, blood pressure and pulse that you can give to A&E or the pallative care team, how to know when to call a nurse to give your wife a shot of morphine or maxalon, how to recognise break through pain from spine mets, where to get lessons on how to give intermusclar injection, the advice that extended exposure to chemo agents can give you cancer so be really careful during the time when our partner is cytoxic, you know useful stuff!
So again if you are offended I apologise for your offence not for my position.
Oh and what hurts is having to hold your partner while the oncologist looks her in the eye and tell her that there are no more treatment options available!
