What to do
I have a wonderful husband who has been my rock but in all of this whirlwind of bc experiencs we have one disagreement....he doesn't agree with chemo or radiation. He firmly believes it can be treat...
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Hi, I do some relationship counselling, and also am married to a man who has very different ideas to me about many things including politics, religion, emotions, how to have a relationship etc.
I firmly believe that husbands and wives need to train each other to be good partners to them, and the training continues for the duration of the marriage.
I am hearing that he is frightened for you and for himself, and he is afraid about what the wrong choice might do and out of his fear he is becoming a bit of a nag. He may also feel it would be his fault if the outcome was bad, and maybe needs to be released from that possibility. But he needs to accept that you have the final say over your body choices, just as he has the final say over his body choices. And it could be very good for your relationship if you can use this issue to help him recognise that loving you in this case means seeing that you have heard him, but you still make a different choice and that his task now is to honour that choice and try to understand it not keep trying to change it. But he may need to face his fear and his fear of letting you down before he can do that.