Waiting....I hate the waiting

Hi Sandy,

I had my mastectomy a year ago(2nd bout of bcancer)and it is probably better to be first on the list cos you are not sitting around getting anxious.Losing a breast is a big adjustment on so many levels-physical,emotional,sexual. It is an amputation afterall and you will grieve for awhile.Because it all happens so fast you don't always have time to investigate reconstruction and line up plastic surgeons.You can always do this later down the track so don't worry.Make sure you have button down the front pjs and some singlets/camis and loose fitting tops.You will most likely be in hospital for 3 days and go home with a drain maybe.I thought it would be really hard to look at my scar when the nurse took the dressing down.     

But to my surprise,Iwas ok -must have been high on pain killers.You feel very sore for a week and when the drain comes out you start to improve.I went back to work about 4 weeks post op.You usually get your pathology about a week post op and that helps to determine any ongoing  treatments.

I felt so much better and confident when I got fitted for my bras and prosthesis.When I am wearing it you would never know.Locate a breast care nurse if you can cos they are a great support.Jump on here anytime as there are lots of wonderful ladies to talk to.We know how you are feeling. Try to keep busy this weekend or the waiting will do your head in.Don't think too much past the surgery,just get through it. Your feelings will become unpredictable-ok one minute and crying another.It's normal and you are intitled to grieve. Best wishes for Monday and let us know how it all goes.

                                        Tonya xx