Hi @Lelle I think you are doing the right thing by gathering as much information as possible to help you make your decision. My breast care nurse said to me right from the start, ‘You want to throw everything at this.’ You sound like you have a great team who will be able to help you with the decision.
Age, stage and grade all have an impact on the plan. I did chemo and came through it pretty well; tiredness was the challenge. The doctors and nurses will do everything they can to keep you as well as possible. Chemo is doable.
I was someone they put in the ‘grey’ area for radiation - the radiation oncologist was ‘comfortable if I did it and comfortable if I didn’t.’ Decision was completely mine which really messed with me. I gathered the facts, spoke to doctors and breast care nurses and decided against it. I had chemo, BMX with clear margins and nodes. I wanted to make sure I would not look back or lose sleep over my decision and, in the end, I am happy with my decision. I definitely followed the recommendations of my medical oncologist and he was happy for me not to do rads. Take care x