It makes me sad to think of young women going through this bugger of a disease. I still think of myself as young though too and no one should have to go through it. I never really checked my breasts, just relied on mammograms when I reached 50 and never thought it could happen to me. I am drumming it in to my 25 yo daughter though to be proactive and regularly check her breasts. She's too young to have mammograms just yet so she will need to know her body. She's sensible enough not to panic though and is taking a pragmatic view on this.
We didn't think gene testing was necessary in my case as the nearest relative I have who had it was my aunty on my mum's side. She was diagnosed two years ago and at 78, my surgeon didn't think it was relevant. There are quite a lot of distant female relatives in my line who have had it and I was quite worried about that but my oncologist said they were too distant to be of consequence.
I do hope your 'bricks' settle down and you can get on with feeling happy about your new boobs.
Love Janey xxx