Hi there
It is all a personal decision. I think a short cut is a good idea too but hey you may want to hang on a little longer? I had short hair anyway and it didn't start falling out in strands until the 2nd week so just before my third treatment we had a party (I was feeling good) and shaved to a 0 blade). I now still have stubborn stubble that is not falling out but - it is crazy how much hair we have! I think your idea about giving your hair away is wonderful.
I got a power port inserted for my second chemo. They had trouble first up and I will be having herceptin for 12 months so we decided to go with the port. I will be able to swim and am find showering I actually don't have much of a protrustion. There is just one scar and a couple of "dots" but mainly below my bra line. It was much easier last time and they will take my blood from it now too.
Good Luck with your first chemo.
Amanda x