Hi Wndsrfn (love your tag by the way) - in fact I loved your whole idea of 'nailing the bitch'!!! I have been reading this thread as I am new to this whole scenario as well. I could even relate to the difficulties your mum must be having in expressing her thoughts and emotions - I love my mum, and loved having her living with me immediately post op, but I also loved getting my own space back when she went home to her place.
I will be seeing the oncologist next Thursday and am pretty sure I will be facing a similar scenario re preventative chemo prior to hormone treatment as I am stage IIB. Had mastecomy on 2/4/14 for infiltrating lobular cancer. I like the idea of being able to tell myself later that I did everythng that I could; that resonates with me.
If chemo is going to happen I think I will also ask about having a port -my veins are awful as was proven by the recent wound infection and efforts to get IV access-bruises over my arms- looks like I have been mud wrestling wityh the best of them! But I have read other posts about the ports being uncomfortable....
I've alos registered for the Mothers Day Classic 4km walk with my family but have just realsied I have no idea of the time between first consult and treatment commencement - consult on 1/5 and walk on 11/5.
Experience with this part of process?
Cheers MLE