You have enough on your mind without worrying about competition between your children.It is a very good idea to put boundaries in place.Perhaps you could go even one step further,and use the emotion that Mother's Day brings,to tell your children how you feel.You could even send them a card from you on 'mothers day',and explain yourself in the card,exactly as you do here on this blog.Some times our family and friends need a push in the right direction,and as you said Sarah,it is about you at the moment.ALL ABOUT YOU:) I am glad that your big cry helped you to feel better too.It is just as important on this journey to cry as it is to feel other emotions.The fact that your tumour has shrunk so much is great news Sarah,and definitely reason to feel happy.I want to wish you a happy Mother's Day Sarah,and if it means that you are able to sort your kids out,then that will be a GREAT Mother's Day.Let us know how things are going.Take care Sarah xox Robyn