Tamoxifen and pelvic checks

I hope you are well darl!  Long time no see/talk!  My fault - I haven't been on the network for some time.I share your concerns with Tamoxifin....and I'm not happy with it at all.  My hot flushes are appalling and wrecking my life and I have stopped taking it.I'm going to my Oncologist soon to discuss an alternative.With regards to the concerns over having a scan I think you are very smart thinking about this.  I definitely think you should proceed if you're concerned. I am all for 'power to the patient' (as you may know) and you are ENTITLED to ask for a referral if you are genuinely concerned.I would ring up the Oncologist and DEMAND the referral.  Tell him/her (can't remember who you're seeing) that you can't sleep because it's worrying you that much and the cost is irrelevant - you'd rather have it done than worry about it 24/7.  No good, ethical Onc or Dr should refuse you on that basis.Another alternative (although I don't like to condone this*) is to go to another Dr (perhaps a bulk bill place) and explain the situation to them and ask for a referral.   (*Some Drs look on this as 'Dr shopping' - hence my comment.)They can only say 'no'.... I do hope you can get a referral as I believe it's important for YOUR piece of mind.BTW - aside from all this - how are you??  Haven't seen you on EE Group for a while so I'm not sure you if you're aware that I'm organising a get together for all of us at MY PLACE for lunch.Looking at a FRIDAY towards the end of May / early June....it's going to be fun lunch with lots of chatting and getting to know some new members.It's been suggested by one of the members that people bring a plate, although I was happy to provide all...but I decided to take them up on that kind offer as I'm trying to accept help these days...Can you please email me at geminishopgirl@yahoo.com.au to let me know if you'd like to come.cheers and luv H