Step 3 (part 2)

Aww K.j big hugs, it sucks all round, my tumour was bigger then scans showed as well so the expected outcome wasn't as expected either. I hope you find a way your comfortable with to tell your children, I have 6 ranging from 10 yo to 25 yo and telling them was hard, probably hardest with the youngest, but I found being open and honest worked, when I didn't know the answer I said I didn't know the answer but I would try to find out, it's not been one conversation, but a series of ongoing conversations, my gp was amazing and did a 'group' session for the kids where he went thru everything with them, and it gave them the opportunity to ask questions and get answers from a dr which reassured them in a lot of ways. One of the things I really focused on was how amazing my Drs are and that treatments have come a long way, when my 10yo broke down in tears saying I don't want you to die mummy, thru my tears I was able to say ' no dr has told me that's going to happen, I have no evidence to say that's going to happen, in fact I have lots of evidence that says I'm going to get better! ' my ten yos only experience of breast cancer was losing one of my friends to it last year, so understandable her fear I would also die.

you can and will find ways to get thru this and manage. Good luck chicky xxxx