Hey Lisa, first a big hug, and I'm going to slow breathe with you!
That wait to see the specialist feels like your hanging by your thumbs, one one hand you want to know now everything that's coming, on the other it's to slow unbearably slow.
i was the same I needed to know more but the process didn't allow for everything to be clear up front, a nice neat step by step that I could say confidently, ok, this will happen then that will happen, I had a fair idea but was difficult to start preparing my head with out concrete plans.
you might be offered various options that you can take time to consider. I found that until surgery was done and final pathology on tumour and nodes in, no dr would commitment to a firm treatment plan, just a lot if 'it's likely, but we will see" conversations.
three weeks after surgery I started chemo, I'm right in the middle of my treatment now, half done half to go, three months in total, then on to radiotherapy, so all up from surgery to finish intensive treatments will be about 6 months, if that helps you get an idea of the process? Having said tho everybody's treatment is individual so impossible to guess at your treatments.
Hang in, hold on, stay strong, you can and will get thru this, you will find a way. Good luck on the 15th
xxx hugs! Let us know how you go xx