@jenv You are exactly right, I'm 20 months post chemo now, I had 4.5 months of sheer hell. Finally I'm getting my life back but it's been nearly 2years and just had my final surgery on monday, my revision for previous mastectomy/diep flap recon done in Feb.
What I noticed with all my subsequent visits to the Oncologist is, no matter what side effects I had or needed to discuss, it was as you say. After I had FEC I did Taxol and I had skin rashes and zero could be done about it. It did all go away once treatment finished. Unfortunately, you are right, they focus on treatment only, that's what they do, they don't want to hear the debilitating side effects or diminished quality of life because of it. It's been a big eye opener!
Hang in there, you'll get to the end and you will get past all of it! I'm glad to be at the end of it all after 6yrs and a recurrence. Choices I'd make differently but couldnt be happier moving on now. xx Melinda