Welcome to the online network Joanna.This is THE BEST place to find support and advice as you go through your treatment.Sometimes chemo is done first to shrink the tumour down,before surgery.Try not to worry too much,as your oncologist does what is best for you,depending on your pathology.Like you,I also have an amazing daughter.When I was first diagnosed,over 12 months ago now,my husband was overseas.My daughter ( she is 24) put a mattress on the floor in my room so she could be there if I woke during the night.I had difficulty sleeping also,but this is just part of this whole thing,and this time next year you will most likely be on here reassuring newly diagnosed ladies and telling them not to worry too much!!!!'Please stay in touch,and use this forum as a support whenever you need it.No question is silly on here:) Cheers Robyn