Hi Melhay,
Welcome to the network. You've come to the right place for support and advice. It's a great place to vent and ask questions. The early days are very surreal. Don't be hard on yourself about putting off appointments to check lumps. I think I did that too. Others have always been a priority for you.
All the best with the appointment. Glad to hear your husband going too to ask questions that you may forget. Have you received the 'my journey kit' from bcna? I found it invaluable.
Be kind to yourself in these early days.
Karen xx