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Denise
Member
14 years ago

sad

Yesterday my beautiful daughter had her first round of chemo (2 days after her 30th birthday) She was originally told she had DCIS and because of her age and family history it was reccomended she hace a bi lateral masectomy.Thank god she did! When her pathology results came back she also had an aggressive stage 3 mass which had not been detected. Going with her yesterday was heart breaking,not because it brought back memories of my chemo but because this is my baby, I passed this on to her and although I knew there was a chance she would have this gene, I think I convinced myself she would be ok. I thought I had been strong and was holding it together but last night she told me I look sad and she often sees the tears in my eyes.I am very good at changing the subject !

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  • sillysam83's avatar
    sillysam83
    Member
    14 years ago

    Im 29 - was diagnosed with DCIS then Invasive grade 3 ... So if ur daughter needs anyone to talk to - she can find me on Facebook [email protected] or via this site. however if she also joins this site she will see what u are saying etc... so FB would prob b easier. otherwise if she doesnt to FB she can email me on my regular email i check daily [email protected], however some things go to the junk folder automatically. so yeah i find FB easier... give her and urself a hug... let ur feelings show u are allowed to have them. I feel bad for my mum too, watching me go thru this. Dont blame yourself!!!! most important advice i can give u... Xxx If you are also interested i know my mum loves to talk to other mums too in this situation. She is not on this site - but u can email her on [email protected] (or u can find her on Facebook too) Good Luck!!! Xxx

  • Mich_x's avatar
    Mich_x
    Member
    14 years ago

    Hi Denise

    I am also sad for you.  I have a daughter who is soon to be 30.  She was married last Saturday.  She is the most beautiful child.  I am so worried she will have the gene as well.  I have recently found out two aunties and one cousin have had breast cancer on my mums side and not sure about on my dads.  I hope and pray that Alysha will be saved from this journey.  I find it is heartbreaking to even see my daugher sad let alone going through what you and your daughter are going through.

    Wishing you both all the very best.  Remember you have each other to keep you strong.  Sometimes it is harder for the loved ones than the person actually travelling the journey.  I know my family are finding it tough.

    Be strong and don't forget to care for yourself as well so you can be there for your daughter.

    LOL

    Mich x