I know exactly how you are feeling. My original plan was to have a lumpectomy and then 6 weeks of radiotherapy. Although I was totally blown away by my diagnosis I thought at least I didn't have to have chemo. It was a relief. But after my lumpectomy, my surgeon told me that I had extensive DCIS (pre-cancer cells) throughout my breast and I'd need a mastectomy and then chemo for 3 months. A big shock! Then after meeting with my Oncologist for the first time, she proceeded to tell me that I'd need 6 months of chemo and a further 9 months of Herceptin and 5 to 10 years on Tamoxifen or Femara (depending on whether I'd reached menopause after chemo). This was another huge shock but I guess throughout this b..... of a desease I needed to be prepared for whatever came my way. I decided that I could only go with the flow. I've had to go with the flow a few times now through my treatment with blood clots muddying the water so to speak and I just found out today that I will most likely be on blood thinners for life. Oh well, it's no use getting upset about it. I say "oh well" a lot too.
So, after all my rambling on, my advice to you Kel is "go with the flow" and add "oh well" to your mantras.
Staying positive is a great way to tackle this 'journey'. I must say I hated that word in the beginning but I now understand that it is entirely appropriate.
Keep smiling my friend.
Lots of love
Janey xxx