You are right Sandy, my quality of life is what I am fighting for but also the fear of recurrence is so high I am trying everything I can. I became so desperate a few weekends ago I tried Valpam and would you believe it eased the muscle tension somewhat and am now taking it every morning with my GPs consent.
My problems with swollen feet, knees, hands you name it are now on the agenda and I am trialling Frusemide a diuretic with a little relief. Ofcourse all the medications have other side effects to be watchful with however on 1 January I will have clocked up 2 years with Tamoxifen. I wear surgical tights and travel stockings most days hopefully to prevent any DVT that may be lurking.
My husband has had DVT and I am fully aware of the problems that can cause. I now go for my morning walk before I have breakfast and take my tablets otherwise my muscles are so stiff and sore within half an hour of taking the medication that I cannot even struggle up my drive way.
I am however determined not to let this beat me, there are days that I suffer terribly especially on a weekend when I want to do my gardening or house cleaning and then I need to sit down and have a few tears to feel a bit better and just accept my problems are getting me down a bit.
I have found another way to relax, it is called Ta Ke Ti Na http://www.taketina.com/ and I really enjoy the rhythms and movement even when I am aching all over - it seems to gently massage my soul.
I will keep looking for ways to cope and get through this difficult time in my life. What keeps me going is that others have been there and done it before me so I will keep going too!
All the best Suzf